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The 90-Second Rule

"And we have complete control over our own attitude. We are the ones we decide how we feel, how we look at things, how we react." -Catherine Pulsifer

Little Gems of Wisdom & Fun from Mary Lynn Ziemer

Feelings can be like ocean waves. They rise, crest, and recede throughout our day. But, according to brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, these waves of emotion actually only last for 90 seconds. After that, it's up to us. Taylor explains:

“When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop."

One of the most important things to remember is that YOU are in control of every situation you are in. After that initial 90-seconds, it's your choice how you choose to view and respond to it. There's a technique I like to call "Flipping the Switch to Joy." And it's amazing how powerful we can be when we learn to change an entire situation by choosing this response. It is time to feel empowered, take charge, and assume a leadership position in your own life. So, how do you start?


Then, Reframe and Refocus.

The 90-seconds of your body's chemical response has passed. oNow you can pause, and choose what you would like to focus on. If you continue to think over and over again about something that is bothering, how can you expect a new outcome? However, when you shift your focus, or "flip the switch," an entirely new universe of possibilities will open up for you.

Whatever you focus on is what you will get more of. When you are focusing on the most ideal outcome, you will feel empowered and strong in the knowledge of who you really are. That feels so much better. It’s in these loving feelings that the true power resides. So, to experience a state of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, you must let go of anything else and shift forward to what you really want!

Anytime you have a situation in your life that you want to change, or take to the next (fun) level, be sure to consciously give up anything that is not helping you. Let it go, surrender it up to the universe, give it away, and be persistent in this task! Sometimes a good cry, or even a good laugh, will allow you to release it!

Then, ask yourself this very important question: "What would I like the outcome of this situation to be?" Ask your intuition to show you the way with complete clarity. As you repeatedly release feelings and shift your focus from the emotion of what you have in front of you, to picturing what you truly desire, you will feel better and become calmer. You must truly leave the old emotion in the past, where it belongs. The better feeling is one of love flowing through you, and taking you to calm. That calmness is the key success factor to accomplishing what you really want. Calmness is the magical mindset.

So, what is it that you truly desire? More money? A deep, loving relationship? Improved health for yourself or someone else? That wonderful job that makes your heart sing? Fill in the blank here______. Whatever it is, know that it is all possible!

You have the incredible power to create your life, experience by experience... the way you want it to be. You can shift to what you want. You can feel the happiness, the joy, and the enthusiasm of your natural self for your life. Or, you can do the opposite. Which will it be? You cannot have both at the same time.

Only in calm can you find the Truth. Only in peace will you see the clarity of the situation.

And only in harmony will you experience your true desires.

Today, be consciously aware of how you feel and empower yourself by making the most self-loving choices. All expectations take the same amount of effort and time, so make them only positive and exciting. Put your complete focus on anticipating what you really want, in every segment of your day. Imagine whatever it is that you have in front of you going well.

Dwell on the outcome of your choice!

Suggested Affirmation:

"I am so grateful that everything goes well for me and everyone else in my life today. I am so grateful that today is the best day of my life. I feel more love and I have more fun than ever!"

Be aware of your emotions, and practice "Flipping the Switch to Joy" as often as possible. It will soon become an amazing habit!

Have an absolutely magical week full of love, gratitude and fun, fun, FUN!

~Mary Lynn Ziemer

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Need help feeling more joy today? Contact Mary Lynn for an initial Coaching session!


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