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The 90-Second Rule

“You’ll reach a new level of freedom when you take control of your emotions.” ― Clyde Lee Dennis

Little Gems of Wisdom & Fun from Mary Lynn Ziemer

Feelings can be like ocean waves. They rise, crest, and recede throughout our day. But, according to brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, these waves of emotion actually only last for 90 seconds. After that, it's up to us. Taylor explains: “When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop." One of the most important things to remember is that YOU are in control of every situation you are in. After that initial 90-seconds, it's your choice how you choose to view and respond to it. There's a technique I like to call "Flipping the Switch to Joy." It is time to feel empowered, take charge, and assume a leadership position in your own life. How do you start?

First, PAUSE...

... then, reframe and refocus. The 90-seconds of your body's chemical response has passed. Now you can take a pause and choose what you would like to focus on. If you continue to think over and over again about something that is bothering you, how can you expect a new outcome? However, when you shift your focus, or "flip the switch," an entirely new universe of possibilities will open up for you. Whatever you focus on is what you will get more of. When you are focusing on the most ideal outcome, you will feel empowered and strong in the knowledge of who you really are. That feels so much better. It’s in these loving feelings that your true power resides. To experience a state of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, you must let go of anything else and shift forward to what you really want! Anytime you have a situation in your life that you want to change or take to the next (fun) level, consciously give up anything that is not helping you. Let it go, surrender it up to the universe, give it away, and be persistent in this task! Sometimes a good cry, or even a good laugh, will allow you to release it! Then, ask yourself this very important question: "What would I like the outcome of this situation to be?" Ask your intuition to show you the way with complete clarity. Picture what you truly desire, and you will feel better and become calmer. You must truly leave the old emotion in the past, where it belongs. The better feeling is one of love flowing through you, taking you to calm. That calmness is the key success factor to accomplishing what you really want.

Today, be consciously aware of how you feel and empower yourself by making the most self-loving choices. Put your complete focus on anticipating what you really want, in every segment of your day.

Suggested Affirmation: "I am so grateful that everything goes well for me and everyone else in my life today. I am so grateful that today is the best day of my life. I feel more love and I have more fun than ever!" Be aware of your emotions, and practice "Flipping the Switch to Joy" as often as possible.

Have an absolutely magical week full of love, gratitude, and fun, fun, FUN!

~Mary Lynn Ziemer

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