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The 90-Second Rule

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes." -William James

Little Gems of Wisdom & Fun from Mary Lynn Ziemer

Feelings can be like ocean waves. They rise, crest, and recede throughout our day. But, according to brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, these waves of emotion actually only last for 90 seconds. After that, it's up to us.

Taylor explains, “When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop."

One of the most important things to remember is that YOU are in control of every situation you are in. After that initial 90-seconds, it's your choice how you choose to view and respond to it. There's a technique I like to call "Flipping the Switch to Joy." It is time to feel empowered, take charge, and assume a leadership position in your own life. How do you start?

First... PAUSE.

Next... reframe and refocus.

The 90-seconds of your body's chemical response has passed. Now you can take a pause and choose what you would like to focus on. If you continue to think over and over again about something that is bothering you, how can you expect a new outcome? However, when you shift your focus, or "flip the switch," to thinking about the ideal situation or outcome, an entirely new universe of possibilities will open up for you.

So, be consciously aware of how you feel and empower yourself by making the most self-loving choices. Put your complete focus on anticipating what you really want, in every segment of your day.

Remember that YOU are in control. So, starting today, be aware of your emotions, remember the "90-Second Rule", and practice "Flipping the Switch to Joy" as often as possible.

Have an absolutely magical week full of love, gratitude, and fun, fun, FUN!

~Mary Lynn Ziemer

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