Reframe and Refocus with Love
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Little Gems of Wisdom & Fun from Mary Lynn Ziemer
How we choose to see every situation is important to us. We have the power to change and reshape circumstances that we are faced with at any moment. We just have to remember that we have this power, and be in a place of calm. We must remember that everything is only final when we think it is. The most important elements to creating anew is the intensity of love that we feel and our incredible imagination. As we feel more love, and feel it more intensely, we will feel calmer than ever before. And it is in the calm that our imagination expands. We are able to know with certainty that what we are asking for is already a done deal.
Here’s an example for you:
One of my clients recently shared with me that she was tired of the same routine her fitness instructor was using during her twice a week visits. She knew that complaining about it wasn’t helpful, that she would only get more of what she focused on if she continued her way of thinking and speaking about it. What she really wanted was for her instructor to be more prepared with new routines and excited about sharing them with her. She really enjoyed this man’s professionalism, teaching skills and expertise, and she definitely wanted to continue with his services if he were willing to take her sessions to a new level of interest and fun.
I suggested she think about the outcome that she wanted in advance of her next class and see it happening in her mind. She also thought in advance about what she might say that would be positive, inspiring and motivating should she feel the need to speak about what she wanted to change during the session. I suggested, most importantly, that she feel lots of love and gratitude around the situation, herself, and the instructor in a way that acknowledged the true power that she holds within. With a calm mindset she knew she could create circumstances in any way she wanted. And she did. It happened easily and effortlessly, and she didn’t have to ask. She arrived at class and the instructor came with all new exercises and a whole new routine. She was ecstatic when she realized she could do this without confrontation or expressing demands.
These were the steps that she used.
1. She asked herself this question before her class: What would I like the outcome of this situation to be?
2. She felt a lot of love and gratitude for herself, the instructor and the class overall. She felt very happy and calm.
3. She put a picture in her mind of what the session would look like and fueled it with love. That’s it! That is all she did.
The most important element is how we feel about ourselves. You see, everything starts with YOU. You are the most important person in your life. Why? Because, you create everything! You have the power to create amazing things for yourself and others, but you can only do that when you feel good. And…that includes how you feel about yourself. Only when you feel deep love for yourself, can you create what you want. Love sees only good in ourselves, others, and everything else. The more love we feel for ourselves, the more love we feel for others. If we want to create things beyond what we have ever created before, we have to feel love beyond what we have ever felt before. How we feel in the present moment will determine how the present evolves into our very next experience.
Begin to look at yourself and everyone else in the situation you are in with new, loving eyes. When you do this, you set the creation of a new outcome into motion. Release and let go of anything that does not feel good. It's time to move on with a feeling of joy for the possibility that you choose! So, flip the switch in your mind. Reframe and refocus with joy.
"Now" is all that matters, so we must be clear about what we want and think about only what is acceptable. In other words, we need to script the perfect outcome. We script it by having a picture, a snapshot of what we want in our mind. If we want this person or situation to be perfect, what would it look like?
The more things we script, the more incredible our lives become. Imagine you are the script-writer of a movie that is your life. What outcome would you like your movie to unfold into? What would you like it to look like? You script it by having a picture in your mind of the desired outcome while feeling lots of love for everything in that picture.
Since everything in your life is created based on how you feel, it is only when you feel consistently good that you can create the end result that you want. So, focus on the perfect outcome that you desire, no matter how far away it may seem. When you are aware of what you are feeling and thinking and you choose new thoughts that serve you well, focusing solely on what you desire NOW, you will see it come about.
Have an absolutely magical week full of love, gratitude and fun, fun, fun!
~Mary Lynn Ziemer
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